Tuesday, February 22, 2011
You waited till your friends parent invited you to call them by their first name, generally after you left school. Even then it took me about two years to call U2's parents by their first name. We now joke about how I called them nothing for that two years, an absence of any name I felt comfortable addressing them by.
But when my friends started having children it sounded strange to be addressed as Mrs and no one else was being so called and so they all called me by my first name. MiniMe in turn calls our friends by their first name.
I had always thought that when she started school that she would start calling all the adults in her life by their proper title. Now we are here I am not so sure.
It would seem strange if she started calling our friends Mr and Mrs as she never has, so why would we change it now. I grew up not knowing my Aunts and Unlces so it didn't seem strange to call non-family that but now that my girls have Aunts and Unlces who are very much part of their lives I wonder if it is taking away from that special relationship to be using it in other relationships?
Then is it weird if she calls her school friends parents Mr and Mrs but not our family friends. Do I want MiniMe's school friends calling me by my first name or Mrs MiniMe? I suspect I will just be called MiniMe's Mum for awhile!
I like that Mr and Mrs teaches children about respecting adults but has the practice gone out the window? Is this a good or a bad thing? Is Mr and Mrs doomed to only be used on our mail?
Monday, February 21, 2011
Friday, February 18, 2011
Last week I went to the shops for the first time in awhile and I came back with only my groceries. I visited two other shops for items I needed but I did not verve off course. It was liberating! It felt good not to come home with clutter or guilt over my purchases.
What has changed I hear you ask? As of the 1st February I am attempting to buy nothing new for a year. MultipleMum spoke about not buying anything new for a year and I am going to try it out. So far so good.
The rules (directly from Compact the group that seems to be the originator of the idea and MutipleMum):
1. Don't buy new products of any kind (from stores, web sites, etc.)
2. Borrow or buy used.
There are a few exceptions using the "fair and reasonable person" standard -- i.e., you'll know in your heart when you're rationalizing a violation:
- Food, drink, and necessary medicine (no elective treatments such as Viagra or Botox)
- Necessary cleaning products, but not equipment (don't go out and buy the Dyson Animal, for example).
- Socks and underwear (utilitarian--non-couture or ornamental) - Pajamas for the children
- Utilitarian services (plumbers, electricians, auto mechanics, veterinarians, dog/house-sitters, fire/paramedics, dry cleaners, house cleaners, etc.) but you should support local and encourage used parts (rebuilt transmission, salvaged headlight unit, etc.)
- Recreational services (massage, etc.) & local artisanal items - Good sources for gifts, but should not be over-indulged in for personal gratification
- Charitable contributions - a great source for gifts
- Plants and cut flowers - Whenever possible, cultivate from free cuttings or seeds. But if you have to, purchase from local businesses (i.e., not Bunnings)--and again, within reason
- Art supplies - First line of attack: SCRAP. When absolutely necessary (for the professionals and talented amateurs in the group), from local businesses
- Magazines, newspapers, Netflix - renewals only, no new subscriptions. Even better to consume online.
- DVD rentals and downloadable music files (non-material) -- freely shared and legal, please
A few weeks in and it is going well. Having said that I did buy a few things at the end of January, knowing what is ahead. Lets wait till a few months down the track when the present box is empty and I want a new pair of jeans.....
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Two of my niece's have had their birthdays in the last week and I have made a cake for both. This was the first one. Unfortunately it was on one of those really hot days and so the icing didn't go tot plan so we had to change the colour scheme a bit! Today's was a butterfly. Myself and the girls had a great time making both.
I understand that baking is not everyone's thing and I by no means think my cakes are masterpieces but if offering to make a cake for another child's birthday should you just keep it simple? Cake with lollies on top.
When I made a cake for a friends child, she commented that it was hard to compete with the cake I made which was obviously never my intention. I just wanted to do something nice for her daugther. In hindsight I should have checked that it was ok and what other plans she had for her birthday. (It was a chocolate cake with meringue petals on it). I did tell SIL that I was making the princess cake and asked if she wanted to keep it simpler. Todays was a surprise as I knew she wasn't having other cake today. It was part of my gift to my lovely little niece who turns one today!
As a child I use to spend hours pouring over the Woman's weekly cake book deciding on a cake and then magically Mum would make it all come together. The cake was a big part of your birthday. I loved it and it was one way that Mum showed her love for us and that we were special to her. I guess I am just trying to carry that on....
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
The call went out for volunteers to be class parents. Most of the Kindy classes has many parents put up their hand, our class had four. And yes, I was one of them. We only need two.
I saw it as an opportunity to get to know the school, the other parents, the teacher, the other children in the class. As I have said before I am am not the most extroverted person so I find having a job to do
Part of it might be that I loved school and I want to do all that I can to help my children love it too. I also don't mind me a bit of admin to help out a good cause.
How hard can it be to be a class parent? Or am I totally underestimating what is involved? You don't do it alone so that has to help. Any tips for new players?
We have our parent teacher information night tonight so I guess I will find out then if I am or if I am not ..... stay tuned.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Ages ago I picked up a Lincraft brochure on how to make an art smock (you can also find it online). Last week it came in handy!
This fabric is kind of like block out curtain fabric so I am hoping it wont leak through. I figure MiniMe is pretty good at not getting too messy when painting now. (Famous last words!)
I also know that the days of not wanting what everyone else wants are numbered too so I will home make things until she wants what the rest of the class has! She told me she really liked it so hopefully she enjoys having something made by Mummy!
Bring on the works of art now!
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
MiniMe now hears all and understands much.
No longer can U2 and I have conversations at the dinner table and not have MiniMe giving her two cents worth or ask lots of questions about topics that I thought she had no interest in, things I thought she tuned out to and got lost in her own daydreams instead.
Now I must be careful what I say to friends in front of her. I was talking to SIL. The kidlets were all sitting at the table a couple of metres away happily eating snow cones when MiniMe chirps up - "I can hear you!". Later I had to ascertain what in fact she had heard. While my conversation was innocent had the story been retold inaccurately it might not have appeared so.
My phone conversations are no longer immune to questioning either. 'I heard you say to Daddy that....' Luckily I can move JJ to another room with me and she cant understand what I am saying...yet.
So I find that there is yet another thing to think about before I open my mouth. Where is MiniMe?
Monday, February 7, 2011
I made these for my Niece's 3rd birthday last week.
They are three different colours of pink netting cut in a wing shape (and sparkle added with some glitter glue!), pleated and then sewn together. I then made two covers out of fabric for the front and back and sandwiched the wings and a piece of elastic (in a figure 8 shape) between the covers. Top stitched around the covers to join it all together and presto - fairy wings!
I hope she has many adventures with them!!